Respect and love your enemy until there is no enemy at all
Sun Tzu states in The Art of War (Chapter 3) “It is said that if you know your enemies and know yourself, you will not be imperilled in a hundred battles; If you do not know your enemies but do know yourself, you will win one and lose one; If you do not know your enemies nor yourself, you will be imperilled in every single battle.”
At the moment we live in a time of relative peace. In a country far removed from a long history of violence and hate. That is not to say that it has never happened or will never happen but the great wars for the most part were fought away from our shores. Human nature can often mean the strong dominate the weak. The opinion of the masses out way the opinion of the individual. Right and might. Bully or be bullied.
To paraphrase Koichi Tohei Sensei‘s rules for Aikido Disciplinants “The martial arts begin and ends with courtesy and Even a one inch worm has a half inch of spirit. Every man respects his own ego. Do not, therefore, slight anyone, nor hurt his self respect. Treat a man with respect, and he will respect you.”, “The mountain does not laugh at the river because it is lowly, nor does the river speak ill of the mountain because it cannot move about. Everyone has his own characteristics and gains his own position in life.” Speaks directly about respecting the person in front of you. Wether they are your mother, lover, friend or enemy they are so because of the journey you and they have taken.
The bully or the enemy is to be respected and loved and not feared. Could you be someone else’s bully if circumstances are or were different? Respect for yourself is allowing yourself not to be consumed by hatred and becoming the hated and is about forgiveness. It is very difficult and violence and fear will always be a part of human existence. Acceptance, respect and forgiveness are virtues to strive for. Understanding yourself is the first battle and is the key to understanding others.
Fortitude Valley Aikido Student Guide P17 by Lee Hampson