The Nature of conflict it is neither positive or negative – it just is. It is not a contest.
From this basis we can look for a way to a win – win for all parties.
Key underpinning principles of conflict resolution taught through Aikido practice are:
- Effective conflict resolution does not aim to establish who is right; conflict is handled through the acknowledgement and appreciation of differences.
- Learning, growing and cooperating are goals for resolving conflict.
- Conflict begins from within. As we unhitch the burden of belief systems and heighten our perceptions, we harmonize more freely.
- In the words of the Aikido Masters, “To Do is to Understand”.
The Aikido approach in responding to physical and/or interpersonal conflict follows the following principles:
- Choose to be Centred – how to choose to be centered through consciously unifying mind and body in a conflict situation. Centeredness:-
- Allows you to be more authentic, sensitive and open.
- By its nature promotes emotional and physical stability
- Promotes trust
- Allows you to achieve a point of clarity
- Accept your connectedness
- Aikido practice opens up the possibility of experiencing our original mind which intuitively recognizes our connectedness
- Acknowledging our connectedness is the reality of our existence
- Letting go of tension, fear and boundaries is the pathway to intuitively acknowledging our connectedness.
- Be willing to understand – By emptying the mind we allow beginners mind to operate. Beginners mind:-
- Is central to Aikido practice. Beginners mind is wisdom, seeking for wisdom and a mind open to discovery.
- Enables us to let go of the filters of the past and the blinders of our expectations.
- Turns frustration into fascination and work into play.
- Perceives no right or wrong only inquiry and creativity.
- Encourages a willingness to understand through:
- Asking questions rather than having an answer
- Naturally allowing differences to fade and similarities to come forth
- Acknowledgement and appreciation of the other person
- Be willing to change
- Flexibility through harmonization allows you to stretch rather than shrink in life.
- Embracing and harmonizing with the forces of change is consciously choosing our future.
- Changing our perspective in a conflict allows us to move from a point-of-view to a viewing point.
- Understand the boundaries – the Aikido practitioner progressively learns to:
- Become open to all possibilities.
- Learn to open to others which leads to compassion and forgiveness.
Aikido training is about natural movement and not using force to achieve an outcome. It is about “Right not Might”.